Jack Ryan and other Men

When you are married it is a tad bit difficult to comment on the opposite sex. Whether you are a male or a female there will be a few raised eyebrows from friends or collegues or relatives. Anyway this is not really about being married. But it is about attractive men. So I saw the many adverts for the new Amazon Prime original Jack Ryan and I was interested. Once I started watching I realised hang on this is the same guy from The Office. When did he get this good looking! And then I started noticing how every opportunity they get Jack Ryan is shirtless. Clearly this was a ploy to show off his chisseled body. And then it hit me I am so used to the camera panning on the women in popular television suggestively showing off the curves that I have never really noted it. And it is only when they started showing off this guys body that I found it odd .  Sometimes we are so used to the male gaze and the patriarchy that we normalize what is a sexist agenda and idea. Back to good looking men!

Good looking men are hard to come by but these guys who cast for Jack Ryan clearly thought it was a great idea to make the character show off his chisseled body because well he is an ex marine and has kept his fitness regime and although he is only an analyst for CIA. But gosh I did find the man attractive. Perils of being married is before you know it one can speak out loud and then land oneself in the quandary. There is very little one can do in terms of back paddling when faced with such a situation. So I do the next best thing make a face and say I don’t find the Man attractive. Good save I think. But as the episodes continue Jack increasingly seems to be shirtless and I have to really keep a straight face when watching it with The H. 

Hence now I have decided the safest stuff to watch is Young Sheldon and Dr. Who. Men can definitely have all the camera panning and gawking but how do we women get around to enjoying our eye candy!!

The End. 


Reading list February 2018

Yes it’s another new year and this time.my resolutions did not include reading books. Naturally I have managed not to read a book in the first month of the year. This is definitely not the start to my year I wanted. To prevent myself from falling back yet again to read 12 books a year. I have started a reading one this month. So here’s the reading list for the 2nd month of the year.

Anthony Doerr’s book is a man Booker prize winner which usually means it will be a good piece of literature but may not be a page turner .  I am still wading into it. Short review will be updated soon. 
Keep reading people. Books are your beat friend. 

Confessions of a Hateful Cook

Many friends ask why I say I hate cooking when I seem to be cooking up storms every other day in the Kitchen!

It’s because cooking as never been my core competency. I wasn’t brought up or trained to like or love the process , I cannot refuse the fact that I love the end result. 😀😁
I remember watching Sanjeev Kapoor’s cooking show as a teenager and noting down a recipe for Paneer shashlik and for the longest time it was the only dish in my cooking repertoire. 😋
I now cook only the stuff I like to eat and is easy to cook. Which means you would not catch me cooking up RUI MACHER MATHA DIYE MURIR GHONTO , because fish head is yuck!! Or CHEESECAKE becasue I have zero baking skills. The point I am trying to make is, I only cook the easy stuff. So I hate cooking per se. If my tummy could handle the pizzas n pastas n burgers all day everyday I wouldn’t be seen anywhere near the Kitchen. In fact if asked to choose to utilise my time between cooking and any other task I would choose the other task. 

But as I learn with age life makes you do exactly what you hate.  That is what learning life leasons is all about. So I cook and hate it because it’s tiresome and the cleaning up afterwards adds to the gall I feel. It becomes a vicious circle of activity followed by hate.

I am also a person who only watches TV series and Food channels. Also a person who reads through menus and gawkes at food photos on home delivery and food apps. I love eating mostly the unhealthy stuff. So, I look at food I want to have feel hungry and go and cook up something which isn’t what I saw. Eat that depressing food and feel awful about it. And I hate cooking. There you go. 

Offlate with some time on my hand and age on my side (read getting old), I have begun experiments. And that’s how I cope with my hatered for cooking. I post my efforts on social media and feel better about cooking. So, my friends liking or commenting actually makes me feel better about cooking. May be someday in the future I will feel differently about cooking but till then its relationship that is complicated. 


Quick and easy Mini Uttapam

Prep time – 15 -30 mins

Cooking time 15 mins


Home made yoghurt (Dahi)


Chopped Onion, coriander leaves and green chillies

Salt and sugar 

White Oil


Whip the yoghurt with in a utensil, add a pinch of sugar & salt to enhance the taste. Start adding the sooji  into the whipped yoghurt in small quantities. Make a batter that is similar to pancake – not runny but not too stiff that it won’t spread. Let this batter stand for 20 mins. You can chop the veggies during this time. Alternatively you  can prepare the batter and keep it refrigerated, But use it only after it is at room temperature.

Heat oil a non stick flat pan or tawa, take a large table spoon and pour a spoonful of batter on the pan. The batter should spread out on its own, in case it isn’t spreading as desired use the back of the spoon to spread it. Donot make it too thin. Turn flame to low, cover with a lid and let it steam for 1 min. Open lid and check with flat spatula if the uttapam is coming off the tawa surface.  Sprinkle the chopped veggies. Let it cook for another min making sure it doesn’t burn ( that’s why batter shounldnt b spread too thin). Flip the uttapam with spatula carefully; let the other side cook for 2 mins. Transfer from pan to serving dish. 

These are mini sized uttapams so once you have got the hang of it you can make more than 1 at the same time.

You can eat these with any sides as per your taste. I prefer it without any chutney or sauce. 

Enjoy these in your breakfast.